Interesting topic for most of the young people, atleast before marriage :). Actually this was another writing assignment during English Language Course with exact tiltle of "In some countries marriages are arranged while in others people decides their life partners". Following was the my hard work during a weekend for this assignment.
Marriage is a sacred bond between two souls, a relationship in which a male and a female promise to be companions for a life. It is not only a union of two human beings but also of two families. In some countries marriage is arranged by parents or some elder person in the family but in some countries marriage people choose their own marriage partners. Both systems have their own benefits and problems.
In most of the Asian countries like India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Iran people prefer arrange marriage. It is the decision of the parents who determine when their son/daughter will marry and with whom he/she will marry. Most of the times bride and groom are strangers to each other and they are not given a chance to talk and meet to each other openly before marriage. Different factors like religion, cast, profession, social status and age are considered for marriage instead of will of marring couple.
Since in arrange marriage couple don’t know each other, they don’t have very high expectations from each other which leads to compromising behavior that is one the key factors of marriage life. That’s why divorce rate of arrange marriages is very much less than love marriages. In case of arrange marriages, as it is done with the consent of parents, if couple faces any problems (financial, social or moral) they have different family member to support and resolve issue.
The biggest problem with arrange marriage is that marrying couple don’t know each other and they have to compromise on many things, their likes and dislikes and also sometimes marriage is forced on couple and they have to spend whole their life with a person they don’t love.
Love marriage is preferred in most of the western countries where people chose their own life partners. Selecting a marriage partner is considered to be a very personal decision of individuals. Usually marrying couple spends a lot of time with each other before marriage and they know each other very well.
Love marriage provides more freedom and independence to the individuals. They spend lot of time with each other which enables them to explore each other’s nature and know strengths and weaknesses of each other. This helps to develop a good lever of comfort and understanding after marriage.
Since marrying couple knows each other they have high expectations and less compromise which can result to disaster. That’s why western countries where love marriage is preferred have higher divorce rate.
Whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage, both of the partners should realize that their spouse is not always going to be perfect. There is no clear answer about which one is better than the other. It all depends on individual’s personal circumstances and personality. Love, trust, loyalty, patience, respect, understanding, appreciating are some of the keywords of a successful marriage, if all this is their in a marriage irrespective of arranged marriage or a love marriage, it is bound to be a happy and an everlasting one.
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